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That was the last relationship and I’ve been single for a while but I don’t want to be alone. You’re not alone in struggling with relationships with ‘bad boys’. You’ve been in relationships with adult men who have chosen to abuse you emotionally, physically and financially.

Those misunderstood, loveable rogues that mainstream media, and often friends or family, tell us we’re powerless to resist. The good news is you already recognise you don’t want relationships like this in the future.

Bad boys come in all shapes and sizes, often not befitting the James Dean stereotype of smouldering sex appeal.

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I'm often questioned by men who tell me they are "nice guys" but feel ignored by women who, they say, "prefer to be treated like crap".

While I don't agree that nice guys always finish last, I do understand that we women do make some damn silly dating decisions.

Think about how they might deal with situations you feel insecure about.

Or create a playlist of music that makes you feel strong.

Perhaps I am so used to being independent that I've become scared to let someone really be there for me, so I select emotionally unavailable people.

Perhaps I invite this type of person into my life by putting on a tough exterior that says, "I don't need love, I don't need you, I don't need anyone." Or perhaps I just haven't met the right "nice guy" yet?

When did you first notice any problems and what did you do? It’s quite common where you’ve just come out of a relationship that’s been unpleasant, and where you feel vulnerable, that your relationship radar may be skewed, making it difficult to tell if your new partner is good for you or not.

Compared to a toxic previous relationship, a slightly less toxic new relationship may seem perfect to you.

Having noted what went on within the relationships, you could write about, think about or talk with friends how you might do things differently.

As you do this reflect on how you feel and whether you’re made anxious about assertive choices.

Such as being bullied as a child, or being raised in a home where abuse (physical, sexual or emotional) or neglect was the norm.

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